Dating : Online Dating is not easier than going to the bars
Sure.. if you look really good you will definitely have success.
I’ve been online dating for three months now and it’s fucking hard as a solid 6 or 7 I’ve gotten only a few matches most of them lead nowhere and if i get the numbers most girls don’t text back after a few days even if we had good conversations. If i get a girl to a date they say only a few hours before it that they have something to do and if i ask them when they got time they don’t respond or they say nothing and don’t come to the date. I only got one girl to a date and then she told me she was not interested and doesn’t want to hurt me.
Like what am i doing wrong?
I’ve had Tinder for about 5 years now and I’ve only got to meet 4 or 5 matches face to face. The vast majority of my matches would either always ghost or just never respond to my message in the first place.
What’s weird is that I was up to about 300 matches at one point and that number has since gone down to around 130. Since the beginning of 2019 I’ve almost stopped getting matches entirely (and no I haven’t gained weight or anything like that).
I can’t help but think about all of the wasted time and awkward situations I’ve avoided by not trying to cold approach in bars and clubs and places like that.
I came across these articles not too long ago and I think they show the lay of the land well:
https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a
And
https://www.yourtango.com/2016285828/women-find-80-percent-men-unattractive-says-crazy-study
I think the best way really is meeting in person. Dating apps give us these preconceived notions of what a person is like that usually aren’t true. At the end of the day it’s about how much two people relate and like vibe off each other. That’s why you see attractive people with not as attractive people because it’s more about your personalities. Sometimes I’ll be really attracted to a girl until I actually have a conversation with her and then I’m like wow she really wasn’t my type. The only way to know this is meeting people face to face. Everyone feels awkward and deals with self esteem issues to some extent and I usually like to acknowledge the awkwardness of a situation, it can often put people at ease. But that’s just my .02 dating can be complicated but the more we just talk to each other the easier it gets for all of us
Like irl dating the worst that can happen is she says no it’s quick and mostly painless
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I dont youve done wrong, the dating world is pretty hard. What I can advise from you is this: enjoy it. You get to meet girls, talk to them, and if they ghosted you, so be it! Ive been dating for quite some time and, humans as we are, we stay with someone who is compatible with us. Its just that, those girls arent compatible with you.
You hit the nail on the head, dating is very hard for 6/7 due to immense competition in the sexual market