Dating : Please help this inexperienced nerd
Hi this is my first time posting on this sub. So a few weeks ago my friends made me download tinder and I agreed because, while I’m not a dating app fan, it’s not like I had any luck anyway. This is mainly because I don’t ever ask anybody out for fear of messing things up so I’ve always played it safe. I’m 23 and last time I went on a date was junior year of HS. I just haven’t asked out anybody since. I’m not a bad looking guy either, I’ve had girls like me in the past and I never did anything about it because I’m dumb as hell. Anyway, the other day I super liked this girl I thought was really pretty. I remember looking at her and going “well this is the last time I’ll ever see her”. The next day I wake up to a message from her and we were talking a bit on off for 2ish days. She said she doesn’t really use the app but she usually responded to my messages. Anyway, the other night (Thursday) I said I was tired of being a little bitched so I asked her out. I expecting a swift “nah” but to my surprise she didn’t say no. I gave her my number and we texted and set up something for Wednesday night. My questions are, should I be talking to her before then if so how much? What do I say on the date? I’m not trying to fuck her im literally just trying to take her out for a nice time. I’m scared of awkward silence. What do I do if there is awkward silence? I just need a general rundown of what I should say, if I should be texting her before hand all that shit. Thanks for helping a shy nerd.
Edit: also how nice do I dress?
Just relax. You are stressed out about this date. Text like you used to don’t change anything. On a date talk and listen, just don’t make it an interview. Keep it light, joke, talk about some of your experiences listen to hers. Give her at least one compliment or two, but no more.
If you two are naturally clicking, then there will be a lot of texting until the date.
If not, then just text her on Wednesday to confirm the details of the date.
That way, if the date goes through, you will have something to talk about.
So far so good. Keep texting like usual. On the date, ask her questions. Girls like to talk about themselves and if she is interested, she’ll ask you questions in return. . Let’s us know how it goes 🙂
Text her now and then (but not too much) to keep the connection there, it will feel more relaxed on date day.
For the awkward silence issue: ‘save’ a few topics of conversation as soon as the silence hits. For example, some news stories, pop culture, current events, school/work items, etc. Rehearse about 5 topics – dont use them unless you need to 🙂
Good luck.
1. Keep the same rhythm of the events that led to the date. Don’t rush but don’t go silent either.
2. Make a good plan about the date. I mean logistics. Be on time, booking the restaurant, grooming etc.
3. At the date, compliment her appearance. Then keep asking questions about herself, let her talk. Don’t ask too personal questions though. If she asks back get to point and read her reactions.
4. If it flows you are in but if there is a natural resistance then make sure you understand where they are coming from so that you work on them.
Your goal should always be trying to fuck her. Otherwise you’re wasting your time and probably hers too.