Dating : Relationships aren’t real to me nowadays. I feel like no one is genuine with themselves. Does anyone feel this way?
Tbh, I (F25) never liked the hookup culture. Experienced it but I felt empty with every guy I was with. I have always wanted to be in a relationship, to value someone for who they are but nowadays I dont know… Everyone seems like they are trying so hard to be the same like they are so reluctant to show that they have any flaws or vulnerabilities. That is so dull to me.
No, it’s always been this way. The only problem is that there’s a lot more trends and a lot more confusion. People don’t think for themselves and they willingly play into this overpriced alcohol, party vacation, fashion trend and dating app-marketing ploy that is aimed at your wallet and your soul lol
the more people piss away your autonomy, the more you will rely on external factors and the more you will empty the last pieces of minimum wage on them as to feel a semblance of happiness and companionship with another person, who’s also likely brainwashed by heteronormative social media and morally challenged influencers, therefore likely to string you along and have trouble dealing with the social pressure of being upfront, so will end up ghosting you.
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Long story, short; Yes and no, but actually no.
Yes. Feel like alot of people are scared to be themselves in public without being judged. I love being myself in public but I’m usually quiet so forcing myself to be more outspoken is also a way of not being myself thinking about it.
Yeah im not thrilled about hookup culture. It feels like that’s just the expectation now that you’re supposed to just be sleeping with people constantly and « getting feelings » is somehow the red flag now. Its crazy.
You are definitely not alone, people always seem to be trying to get something out of someone instead of trying to harbor a two way street. I’m tired of opening myself up just for it to be for nothing. Some people just expect to be handed things, it’s baffling.
I feel the same way.
Glad im not alone then.
Hmmm she’s either on too much social media or is influenced by the wrong crowd.
Depending on your values and how you’ve grown up, you you spent your time with etc, focus on living your life and men will follow.
Male here, pursuing the life I want to live has worked wonders. How you act you’ll attract, just know that there’s still good people out there who want the same thing as you
I can somewhat relate but the other way around. I am myself at all times and it feels like that’s why i have no luck with dating. I dont know if that makes sense or not
Reality is everyone is incredibly insecure so they fight back by being toxic and degrading, and this creates endless cycles where men and women are putting each other down to the point that nobody has any real emotions left.
I know what you mean. I recently split with an incredible partner, and despite all ‘normal’ incentive for a young man to go out there, I have zero desire to go pursue someone, especially if just for hookups. I want meaning.
I hate it, but I decided I will learn to be on my own and **work on myself** in the meantime. I want to love _idealistically,_ and most I’ve met don’t reciprocate that. There’s conditions, there’s barriers and most people my age just don’t have any connection to themselves. But I am convinced that the right one is someone whom you attract, not someone you pursue. Most people in the dating apps « market » are there because of some underlying desperation, and won’t necessarily make good partners for long-term, although it is certainly possible.
That’s my experience anyway, just know you are not the only one feeling that way.
It’s because every time I show my insecurities, the women leave.
I’ve (28F) been having similar thoughts. I try to stay positive but people I’ve come across are not genuine. Maybe it has to do with their own vulnerability? In the beginning you’re enjoying their facade only for reality to set in soon. I’ve still got hope that someone will change my mind someday soon though.
Took the words right out of my mouth. Felt this way for about 4 years
Too many options so impossible to choose one
I’ve felt that with most people. Occasionally I’ve met really interesting women I could talk with for hours.
Yea
Yeah Ive (25F) felt that way before. Kinda gave up on dating for a while, and just like embraced all my friends/family/myself instead, and no regrets. Eventually without looking, a osrskn who just like impressed me wandered into my life. It didn’t work oit but for 5 years it was the most genuine relationship id ever had at that point. The solitude beforehand helped me like, process the pros and cons of past relationships and let me see more clearly what really interested me about someone.
That is until you meet THAT right person