Dating : Responding to break ups
Definitely not incelling or black pilling with this question – I hate that nonsense so don’t come here with that. But I’m curious if others have found that women move on much more quickly from break ups than men?
I’ve had two significant relationships and in both cases when it ended the girl I was seeing at the time went on to meet someone else very quickly. I took a lot longer to grieve. Is this specific to me?
Everyone is different when it comes to how long someone grieves after a relationship is over. Some people need more time some people need less time.
In my experience, the person who leaves has already processed ending the relationship before they do so, so they’ve got a head start on the left.
Depends on the person completely. Also who broke up with who. Gender has nothing to do with how fats someone can move on.
The decision comes way before announcing the news, so by the time the break-up happens, the women is already mentally checked out. I sometimes grieve a relationship while I’m still in it, when I can clearly see it’s dying/heading towards the end.
Girls are traditionally the recipient of much more attention (wanted and unwanted) so your ex girlfriends probably just decided to entertain one of the offers they received.
I’ve observed the same (as a woman) and my theory is this:
It is more acceptable in society for women to be open about their emotions (namely sadness) and are more likely to lean on their friends and family for emotional support, with or without a significant other. In my experience (with exes, and with friends’ exes) men tend to save this sort of vulnerability for their significant others, so the breakup is a much larger loss to them emotionally. It is why I think it often takes longer for men to move on and honestly it is also why I think more women are happy to stay single.
Bruh, 2 years ago I had a bad argument with my wife, I had to leave and stay the weekend with a friend of mine, later I talked to her and went back home, found out she downloaded a dating app and had set up dates…
Women move on from relationships before it’s truly over. The men they move on to « quickly » were around before your relationship truly ended. This is why it *appears* that they’ve moved on so quickly.
The only time a woman is truly devastated after a breakup is when it blindsides her (aka she hasn’t had a chance to secure a soft landing).
Did they break up with you, or did you break up with them? Regardless of gender the one doing the breaking up is going to move on quicker because they were preparing for it for weeks/months. By the time they break up they’re already over the relationship and now the other person has to start recovering. I don’t think it’s a gender thing.
Men dont have close friends for some reason and never talk about their emotions. So when a girl breaks up with them they literally have no one to talk to and it’s soul crushing.
Women have tons of friends usually and girls will gladly spill their guts to each other and emotionally support each other. Cuddling and all.
So its not the same.
The solution btw is men need to have closer friendships. Half the toxic desperation in this sub and in men online is from not having emotional outlets. Women have each other for that.
This doesn’t happen in other countries where men have close emotional friendships btw.