Dating : Should I tell Tinder Guy’s Girlfriend He Cheated With Me?
I met a guy on Tinder and we sexted a few days. We ended up hooking up and the next day he told me was not into pursuing FWB with me and blocked my number before I got the chance to respond. Like in a minute. I was talking to a friend about him and she did a Reverse Image Search of him and found him. Turns out he has a girlfriend. I’m honestly really bothered by how he just up and blocked me. Especially after aggressively pursuing me and texted me non-stop pictures of himself. Should I let it go or tell his girlfriend he’s on Tinder and what he and I did? I mean he’ll probably keep doing this. And no other girl should be tossed away like he did to me.
Does he know where you live? And your real name and number? You must live in a far different world than I do. He’s a bad person, but you have no idea if he’s just cheap petty shit or full on big personality disorder will do bad things person and blankly stare at the camera in the Netflix documentary.
Seriously, these people here can egg you on, but they have nothing to lose and gain the entertainment of you.
I had a sort of similar situation. I told the girl my boyfriend cheated with she was the other woman and SHE BLOCKED ME. Not sure if it’s because she didn’t believe me? But it’s tricky territory.
Cheating is an awful thing to do to a person. I’d tell the girlfriend and send screenshots of the messages and tinder profile. The asshole deserves it
Yes you should, she deserves to know. That is horrible. Just make sure you’re safe first because this guy sounds like a horrible person.
As the gf who was recently told about her boyfriend having a tinder, yes tell her. If she’s a decent person she will understand it wasn’t your fault.
The girl he was sexting didn’t tell me herself, and I didn’t know her, but her roommates friend did. I knew the girl who told me pretty well, but still. I am appreciative of the girl who set it all in motion to let me know so I could deal with it.
Tell her! My ex cheated on me sure way more than I knew and I wish I had broken it off sooner. It’s unsafe for her to be with him. She could get something from him. Tell her she needs to know the truth and then she can go from there.
Do it! Let her know
Hell yes! I’d want to know.
A LOT of men on dating sites are secretly taken. Probably 50% I’ve talked to, and those are just ones I’ve caught. I always make it a priority to deep-search him on social media and the internet because its happened to me so much, and I need to protect myself.
That said, I did tell the girlfriends/wives a few times, and all that happened was he lied his way out of it to them and they remained together while he created the narrative that he’s SUCH a good catch that I’m just a lying stalker. I was the one with more money and education (and fitness) than him, so that narrative didn’t even make sense for any of them, but the women still believed it and it only made her more obsessed with him.
That said, if you do end up telling her, send her screenshots preferably and and tell her, then say « sorry I don’t want to be involved with this bc I didn’t know he was taken and want no part of this but just thought I’d let you know for ethical reasons » and then block her. I learned the hard way that if you don’t block them, they will sometimes come back and verbally rip you apart because she believes his lies over your truth, or she will stalk you and obsessively watch your social media stories etc to figure out what you offer that she doesn’t.
Nah I wouldn’t – getting yourself involved in someone else’s life which IME usually doesn’t end well. Save yourself the mental energy and move on with your life and forget about the dude.
However if it’s really bothering you go ahead and contact her, the peace of mind might be worth it.
Na block him and move on. Thats none of your business. Only thing you will get from that is stress and anger. Maybe he is a psycho and freaks out if you tell her. Just leave it
It’s not really your problem and while it was a dickish thing to do, he doesn’t owe you anything and you don’t owe him anything.
Your pride was hurt. I get that. But really my advice would be to say fuck him and move on.
I would want to know. Girl code.
Please tell the girlfriend! She has the right to know her boyfriend is a piece of shit!
I would want to know
Chicks before dicks. Solidarity sister tell the gf
Yes.
I would ask random strangers on a social media site what to do picking the opinions which validate what I was probably going to do anyway.
You’re only doing it because he “tossed you away”. Just chalk it up as life lesson learned. Don’t be spiteful that stuff always turns ugly.
I was on the other side of this situation. Boyfriend cheated on me, and I broke up with him. I decided to message the girl he was hooking up with – because I realized she couldn’t have known about me.
I very calmly gave her the facts and told her there were no hard feelings. She briefly replied to apologize and tell me she had no clue he was two timing us.
If I were in that situation, I would want to know.
No, what benefit do you get from this?
You don’t want to be involved in this drama.
Do it! Teach him a lesson
Yeah, you should, she has a right to know that he’s not being faithful so she can find someone worth her time as he clearly doesn’t respect her if he’s aggressively pursuing other women (and yes, I’m assuming you aren’t the only one).
That would be creepy , borderline stalkerish. Just move on.
I’d want to know if I a lady was doing this to me. Suppose he catches something and passes it along? What, for some strange? Take him down
Pls do it, she doesn’t deserve to be in the dark about something so important to her life.
Live and let live, it’ll catch up with him eventually. I only ever see girls trying to out cheaters, never guys.
post her response here!
You’re creating drama just to create drama. He could be in an open relationship and then you’re just intruding on his relationship.
You weren’t tossed away. He wanted to fuck you once or twice but changed his mind. You were never his, therefore never his to toss away. But don’t be insecure. It happens.
I personally wouldn’t involve myself but to each her own.
Hell yeah I would
I would if I was his gf I’d want to know
Nope