Dating : Today I had a first date that went amazing, but then it turned the other way. Would love any ideas or advice
So i moved to a new town about a week ago and i had my first date up here today. We met on bumble a few days ago- facetimed a few times and really hit it off so we went on a coffee date.
Today is actually her birthday and she had a busy day- but she made time for me. We got coffee- talked for a solid 1 1/2 hours and REALLY hit it off. She has anxiety but told me i made her really comfortable and she felt like she could be herself around me.
As i said she had a busy day, so after our date she had plans with friends. She apparently liked me so much that she invited me to hangout with her and her friends. I was free so i was happy to join.
We met up with them and it went great- hit it off with them as well. We took a 30 minute drive to a small town. When we got there things were still going great- we ordered food at a restaurant and then i excused myself to go to the bathroom. When i got back things had fairly obviously changed.
Her friends were still talking to me- but she had kinda shut down. She was sitting on her phone the majority of dinner. On the way home it was just as awkward- her friends were still talking to me as normal- but she didnt say anything.
I havent texted her since the date, as she was still with them and i didnt want to annoy her.
Its now night and im assuming shes back home. I really like her- so i want to text but i dont know what to say?
Should i ask what happened? Or maybe just keep it simple and say i had a nice time?
Any advice on what may have happened and what i should do would be appreciated.
Obviously it was a first date, so im not really too bothered if we stop talking- i did really like her though.
Say you had a nice time, but you had noticed something was off by the end of the date, and just ask if everything is ok
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Yes agree, call/text and tell her you enjoyed your time and when could you see her again.
She probably had an anxiety attack. Or maybe she got bad news via text while you were gone. Either way don’t, mention it. Ask her out again if you like her
Just say you had a great time getting to know her friends and the time you guys spent, and just talk to her, and not about her friends. Don’t act oblivious & just acknowledge that as fun as it was, you’d really like to go get coffee one on one again because that was the highlight of today
Let it go. If she reaches out, set up another date and go from there.
I agree with what most of the others have said. I’d reach out and thank her for a nice date and possibly ask for another. But but bring up the end.
Don’t believe her lies/excuses.
Her friends talked you down while you were gone.
Probably better off without her anyway.
Never do a follow on with friends like that.
You’re a busy guy who made space in your calendar to spend time with her. You’re not a loser who will tag along to a friends meeting because you have nothing else to do.