Dating : Unpopular Opinion: The universe doesn’t owe you a partner/significant other.
If you think there’s some cosmic force that dictates who gets a partner and who doesn’t, then you’re probably not mature enough for a relationship in the first place. You »re not entitled to a SO any more than you’d be entitled to winning the lottery or getting the rest of my sandwich.
A partner will want to be with you because for any number of reasons, but none of them will be because that think they can turn you happy
I’d suggest it’s a popular opinion. Love, like respect, is earned.
Are you entitled to food? A roof over your head? I don’t think so. But absence of those will make you miserable. Are loving relationships essential for survival? Hell no, but the presence of one will make your life a lot better provided it’s a good relationship. So, I think it’s totally fair that people crave it intensely.
And these platitudes often come from people who usually had no difficulty finding someone to date, have relationship with because to them, it’s like what’s the big deal? They are so self absorbed that when they are wilfully fasting they preach to the starving how awesome it is to go without food and how great it is for the body.
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The real unpopular opinion these days is to tell these people that if they are feeling miserable for not being/never being in a relationship then their feelings are valid because it’s a basic human need and desire to connect with someone on a deeper level, a level that we can’t get to with family and friends. And that they should keep improving themselves, keep putting themselves out there and hope that it will work out for them eventually.
My therapist seems to disagree. Maybe you need to see one too.
Nobody is entitled to anything ever – but as humans we should probably strive to treat one another how we’d want to be treated ourselves.
I think this phrase is often used to shrug off any criticisms of people’s bad behaviour, as if it suddenly doesn’t make their behaviour bad, even though if everyone adopted their behaviour or such a cutthroat mentality to friends/resources/relationships we’d probably just all purge one another and end up forming Mad Max style tribes.
I thought I was on r/unpopularopinion because they post popular opinions there too!
That’s not an unpopular opinion.
An unpopular opinion is that the people who post things starting with « The world doesn’t owe you » never tell people anything anyone doesn’t know, and are just taking the opportunity to punch down against unpopular groups because they know they’ll be backed up by other commenters against the unpopular groups they’re punching down against.
What kind of sandwich? 🙂
Unless you’ve got a way to make a brain stop wanting one what’s the point of this?
I don’t believe that people are entitled to an opinion either. I don’t feel entitled to have an opinion of something that I know little or nothing about. If I care about something enough to want to have an opinion, then I care enough to put in the work to know wtf I’m talking about. An opinion is not going to stop some humans from having the same emotions, needs and desires as any other human. So how about we just stop treating some people as less-human than everyone else just because some know-it-all has an opinion?
the actually quite a popular opinion
I beg to differ. I used to think like that until I met my significant other. It took a long time, nearly 30 years of being single and when I met her, it all made sense to me. She was the first woman who made me forget all my pickup lines and genuinely enjoyed the date.
I won’t say the universe owes you someone. That’s the wrong frame of mind. But I really do think that our karma or life does led us to our significant half one way or the other.
You’re spot on. That’s why being a human sucks happiness has to be made from within. And sometimes it harder to do.
Another one of these threads uh?
Yeah to both sexes, absolutely. Nobody cares if you’re single or miserable. That’s on you. I can say from personal experience, I used to box and was in stellar shape, women would pursue me, step over themselves to be with me and fight to keep me. Then I got overconfident and let myself go, I gained 50lbs and became invisible to women. The truth is guys like cute girls and girls like cute guys and if you don’t want to get as close to that metric as you can, you’re gonna be single. Gone are the days where all you had to chose from was the people in your town. You can meet people all over the world now which means everyone has a lot of competition. Luckily, most people are just lazy so the bar isn’t really set as high as you would think. Heck, having some basic style (for both sexes), an average level of fitness and charisma and some potential and you can literally sweep up. I think so much time is wasted being angry. The time people spend complaining that they don’t feel they should have to lift one finger to change, yet demand to be with the top 5% of hot successful people is mind-boggling. And don’t get me wrong, if you don’t want to change anything, you don’t have to but as the saying goes, « If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll continue to get what you’ve always gotten. »
That’s right. No one is owed anything. Certain people accept this truth while others are too entitled to recognize it.
I had this argument with someone here on reddit yesterday. They meant that a relationship was a basic need, and I argued only food, shelter and safety was. I feel that some people think that they can do whatever they want in their quest for a relationship. It’s silly. If no one wants to be with you, you can’t force it.
Bingo
And guess what? I don’t owe the world one god damn thing, in fact I will rob this world of something huge, just like it robbed me of many, many, many things!
I dont know what I despise more. People who think that love is pre-determined and that they deserve love. OR people who think that life isn’t worth living without love. I pity both sides.
Thank you. I needed to hear it for the millionth time
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Then others are not entitled to some things either. I wont mention them because most people here would screech.
Beautifully said, reassures me that I’m not going crazy and making up truths of my own lol…
I really like the « Getting the rest of my sandwich » part its so on point because if i like you enough I just might let u have it lmao
This an extremely popular and extremely useless opinion.
Yep I see why it’s unpopular now
That’s the Hollywood narrative that has screwed so many people’s minds. The red string, the half orange, the soulmate, the opposite complement. All this to keep people stuck into « being oneself » and never caring about actualizing our life an personality, because « there’s the perfect person for you out there, you just need to be patient ».
Unpopular opinion related to this: that soulmate does not mean for the rest of your life! Some people are meant to come in our lives for a certain amount of time to teach us lessons and whatnot. Then we move on with those lessons.
True, Also not entitled to food or water