Dating : Why do guys get mad when you don’t realize they like you?
I think maybe this is just more of an immaturity/lack of communication thing and not a guy thing but it happens a lot. I mean you can flirt with me and whatever, but if you never actually ask me out how am I supposed to know that you are interested? I don’t do well with reading signs because they could mean so many different things. This guy I worked with last summer got really mad at me months afterwards and said “I was in love with you all summer and you didn’t do anything about it.” Like what??? How the hell was I supposed to know, you never told me. Afterwards he just said it was a joke when I actually asked him about it, trying to see if that was really how he felt. Lots of guys flirt, how am I supposed to know you’re really serious about it if you don’t say anything… Maybe I’m just clueless but I like to know your intentions for me are more than just a hookup or a pride boost, and that’s done by communicating with me. People flirt all the time, doesn’t mean they always want to pursue something.
Ego.
Speaking from my own experience, I don’t get mad. I just don’t cater to the hard to get game and move on. State it plainly, if there’s nothing then keep walking and find a new road.
Avoid him, he sounds like he has issues.
Here’s a rule of thumb for guys.
They won’t bother wasting their time with you if they are not interested.
This may not apply to all, but it applies to all I know.
Guys don’t play friend zones and teasing. They either spend time in your vicinity or they leave quickly to make effective use of their time elsewhere.
So don’t be surprised when you have been teasing along some friend zone and he gets mad because you let it slip that you don’t even recognize his humanity.
Ya that’s super weird. Guys should ask a girl out if they like them. It’s nothing on you they are just afraid of going for what they want and there’s nothing you can do about that.
There are a lot of clueless guys out there, and yes, there are a lot of maturity issues as well. I see guys in there 20’s who basically have the maturity of a 15 yo relative to when I was young (I’m late middle age). At 16 I was the assistant to a water treatment plant operator and by 22 I had my own business. Now we have guys in their early 30’s barely employed living in Mom’s basement playing video games.
Anyway, I digress. If you flirt enough to show interest in a guy then yes, it is up to him to do something about it. If he won’t then pass him by. That is why it is so important that you don’t let yourself get too emotionally involved with the results too quickly. There is nothing wrong with flirting with more than one guy at a time because there is a « numbers game » element to this, and some may respond while many won’t. But you want the guy who is bold enough to do what he is supposed to do and *knows what he is doing*. That is the guy who is going to make you feel safe and protected (emotionally, physically, finacially) as you go through life together in the future.
This is a pretty big red flag of douche-baggery.
That is, fake kindness and affection, just because you want someone to *Validate* your feelings.
Saying « it was just a joke, bro!!! » afterwards…big douchebag move.
Guy’s working pretty hard to avoid people taking him seriously.