Dating : Dear reddit, I need you help. (Kinda venting too)

Dating : Dear reddit, I need you help. (Kinda venting too)

I’m in a weird position right now.

I’ve been seeing this girl for the past 2 months, and I like her a lot, she does like me a lot too by the way.

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We’ve reached an akward place, she feels like she can’t give me what I want because I’m too intense, but she wants to keep seeing each other, and doesn’t want to cut things off so quickly.

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We have said to each other that we hace very strong feelings for each other.

The thing is, she’s not clear on what she wants.

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I hace trust issues, a lot of them. So like any person that has them I went in this on my tip toes, but she said things that made me lift my barriers. Saying she wanted to be my Girlfriend when we get there, saying that she missed me 5 seconds after we said « Goodbye » to each other. And plenty more stuff.

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Right now I’m in a place where I know the 2 options that lay ahead.

Either I decide to cut things off and it hurts now like a motherfucker because (as i said) i really like her.

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Or

I keep trying and hope we get to know each other better and things work out. (I do have in mind that this might not work out and i get really hurt, but what can i say, I feel she’s worth the try)

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If you asked me right now, « Beennu, Why do you think she acts this way? »

I would say she does this because her ex hurted her really bad, she was in an awful situation and he dumped her without even thinking she needed him most at that time.

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So what I’m thinking is, she does this to not get hurt again.

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I’ve already decided that I want to keep seeing her, and if I have to get hurt so be it. But she’s worth all the pain in the world right now.

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This ended up being more of a vent than a question.

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But i do want your opinions. Cheers.