Dating : I hear all this motivation but it doesn’t seem to change anything
Always seem to hear people say with dating. Oh don’t worry a girl is out there for you and don’t give up. Yeah well that doesn’t help cause I’ve been doing that for years so how much longer do you really need to wait? Especially with online dating. I revamp my profile all the time and still nothing changes. I barely get matches and I take people’s advice but nothing seems to work. It sucks and I’m sick of it. Just gets me so depressed. People say go out and get off dating apps. Ok but go where? My friends don’t like to go to bars much anymore so where will I meet girls? Do I go myself? That’s just sad. Idk what to do anymore
Do you pretty much always go to the same spots? Too many people are comfortable in their habits and shit their pants at anything they can’t control.
Personally I’m not a fan of going out to clubs/bars/parties and picking up chicks. I love women, but I truly just don’t care for the atmosphere of drunk ppl, shoulder to shoulder crowds and the superficiality of it all.
Having said that, I’m also not the best with approach. It’s not easy for me to walk up to a chick, spark up a convo, demonstrate value, and get her number.
My best luck has been on tinder and bumble, and there’s an art to that as well. Your photos and your bio are EVERYTHING when a chick decides to swipe, yes. Once you start talking, you have to keep her engaged and don’t take your time, otherwise she’ll lose interest cause there’s tons of dudes trying to talk to her. Get her number and start making moves with dates and such.
It can be tough man, but I say try all avenues and find what works for you. If you want to pick up chicks, find friends who like to go out and work on your approach. If you prefer the lone wolf style like me, master the dating apps and try that.
Dating requires you to be proactive, NOTHING will happen if you do NOTHING
> how much longer do you really need to wait?
You don’t wait. You take action and make things happen. Swipe more. Talk to more girls. Tap into your social circle. Use social media. Etc.
> I revamp my profile all the time and still nothing changes.
You need amazing pictures and enough women so that you can put in the proper numbers. If this still isn’t working, try a different app/site or go talk to women IRL.
> Ok but go where?
Anywhere there’s girls. Go to a coffee shop, bookstore, yoga, the gym, the grocery store, a mall, a bar, a club, a class, school, etc. My guess is you’re limiting yourself in « appropriate » places to chat with women. All places are fine to talk to women.
> Do I go myself? That’s just sad
Doing things (that you enjoy) alone is a very confident thing to do. You don’t need other people to go out with you (if they don’t want to). Go out alone and make friends at the bar or hit on girls.