Dating : I know I’m a catch but I don’t know what to do when I actually like someone 29F. Help
I’m confident and secure with myself and I get attention but once I find myself emotionally invested I end up ruining it by overthinking, doing too much too quickly, opening up too fast, expecting too much, I don’t know. I’m starting to like this guy and I think he likes me too but I don’t want to ruin it. We’ve been on 4 dates and have not slept together yet. I know he’s open to finding someone but how do I keep things going well without moving too fast or too slow?
I know you said your secure but sounds like you have some insecuritys. Just don’t force the relation that’s when things go to shit. If it happens it happens if it doesent, then just be patient
The biggest problem I see people make is that they spend way too much time asking for answers to questions they already know the answer to but don’t want to accept.
What’s your problem? You’ve been hurt. Probably have been humiliated. You’ve developed a method of preventing that from happening again by making your decisions quickly. Being secure isn’t the same thing as confidence.
Think of confidence as « I’m know I’m good at this »
Think of security as « I know things will be okay »
There’s no magic pill to make things go right or to make people act like you believe that they should. Finding someone is a lot harder for those of us who are out to find someone we like and convince them rather than choosing among the people who are already crazy about us and being happy with that.
Good luck out there.
What makes you a catch? You’re 29. Obviously you’re not an 8,9, or 10 because by your age, all the really hot girls have been locked down into marriage or engaged.
So you’re a single woman, pushing 30 with no prospects. The best you are is cute.
You’re an adult and you’re not a virgin. 3rd date is the cut-off. You’re playing games with him and he’s losing patience. You’re obviously using sex as a weapon because either A: You’re not that interesting or B: You have serious emotional issues that require professional help.
If he leaves after sleeping with you, he wasn’t staying around anyway. If he likes you, sex won’t change anything.
Long story short, you’re out of time and if he’s vaguely interesting, he’s probably about to give up and meet someone else.
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Anyone who says they’re a catch is probably not a catch though right? Would you date a man who self proclaims he’s a catch?