Dating : I’d wish to hear some tips and perspectives from others regarding to dating life experiences
Hey there. I’m simply a young adult male sharing my struggle finding a girl. It’s been quite a while since I seriously was looking for a date and having my eyes locked on someone. I think the best way to start off is by giving a short introduction to whose reddit post you’re reading right now..
Like I said, I’m a young 19-year-old man struggling with dating. My fashion in clothing is a mix of goth and punk styles and I do a lot of gaming (tho I don’t see that gaming part being the problem here, as some may expect it to be). Other hobbies include digital painting, martial arts etc.. I’d say I’m very different from most people.
Now more about my dating experiences: I’ve had Tinder for almost 2 years. I’ve only had one successful date where I got turned down because the person I had met told me having some difficulties to date someone for the time being, but few weeks later she was open about it and simply told me I wasn’t that exciting company, not even as a friend. We had seen each other only once during the day we went out on a date and that’s it. Before that we texted almost hours on end, but after our date she went quiet. As for me, I had been already suspecting that our relationship didn’t work, because I was the only one starting the conversation and keeping it up. It was a waste of time in the end, sadly. Other times on Tinder when I get a match, I try to talk to my match but they wouldn’t even try getting to know me or go out with me. Is this a common thing with Tinder or what’s the problem?
I’m not that outgoing in my personality, but I used to go out drinking regularly in different places. That thing also saw its end coming after my social reputation was suffering from great deal of unending damage. I began losing friends on my second year in high school (in 2017-2018), people stopped talking to me and not wanting to see me, usually presenting obvious excuses why they wouldn’t have time for me. These days I’m spending my time alone in my room from the moment I wake up ’til the time I lay down on bed again. No one hasn’t texted me or called me in 3-4 months, if not counting my online friends who I play games with.
I forgot to mention that I’m a really honest person, so whenever I had some beef with someone I did ask them what was wrong, had I done something, anything really, but they wouldn’t bother answering or just telling me we are good. Before the end of my 3rd year in high school I was finally being targeted and made fun of, only couple of weeks ago, and no one didn’t seem to care to stop it. This happened via Facebook in a group which included many from our school and others. No one seems to really miss or care about me.
Sorry, this is getting way too long. Anyway my point is that I’m asking for choices and opinions of my case. What should I do to increase my chances on finding a girl? Or if anyone’s had similar situations in life with me that has affected them in some way. I seriously don’t much care about having many friends, that’s not my point, I just wonder if you guys see it as a downside for looking a girl if a guy isn’t that famous.
I’m just being desperate, is all. This is my first time seeking for help with my dating life.
EDIT: I’m from a small town, roughly less than thousand people live here and closest city is as far as 70+ kilometers. There aren’t that many places to go and meet people after all, I’ve almost been everywhere around my town in neighbouring towns and events.