Dating : Questions for those who are casually dating/casually having sex
Newly single person here trying to navigate the dating world… I got some questions for those who are not actively seeking a relationship but still making efforts to hook up/date.
1. How is it working for you? Does it genuinely make you happy and satisfy your needs?
2. Do you see/sleep with the same person more than once? If not, why?
3. What is the reason for your emotional detachment, and why don’t you let it get past that point? What do you do if you/other party do start to develop feelings?
Let’s get personal 🙂
1. It’s hard if you’re not jacked or not blessed with good genes. You can get lucky so long as you are persistent or you are able to outsource yourself than just one app/hookup site. Satisfies my needs temporarily then one month after I need a BJ again
2. Yes/No. I only keep booty calls if I know they are cool. I remove booty calls if one of the following happens…
1. They are seeking for a relationship.
2. The sex sucks now
3. If she starts being too picky/bitchy
4. They are too far
5. The trouble of any kind
3. I don’t find myself to have a partner as a priority. It’s expensive both in time, emotions, money. My time is myself. I don’t want a partner to bog me down of opportunities nor do I want her to feel bad. Emotions can run high when you’re doing a lot for yourself than the relationship and until I am content with what I did for myself then we can get into that. Money. We all know money makes the world go round. I just want to use it for investments and food along with my own expenses.
1. I drop any girl if the girl develops feelings. If I develop feelings, I tell myself it’s an infatuation
Recently out of a LTR & not ready for commitment and don’t want to burden her with being my rebound.
Worked good for a bit, but starting to get demands for commitment & exclusivity.
Just want to hold out a few more months.
It’s satisfying until it’s not. It all just depends on what you want and where you are in life I guess. Being recently single probably means you are not looking to just dive into something super serious right away, which is fine, we’ve ll been there. As a guy, I feel like it’s important for me to be upfront with my intentions too, because generally girls are not as open to say « I’m looking for a hookup. » All in all though, just be safe with it.
You can’t get casual sex as a guy unless you are super attractive or have very low standards. Girls sex up, guys sex down
1. It makes me feel happy, desired and satisfies my needs. It raises my confidence. But it’s only temporary – sex drive will catch up again.
2. Yes! Of course I will, if I like her. I’m open to one nighters but I love meeting up again as well. If I don’t, then I may have found her sexually appealing but not fun enough to be around.
3. It’s a mix of having other options I want to explore and hurt. My relationship experience is overwhelmingly negative so I don’t think much of it. One of the core reasons for a relationship is the regular sex and if I just get that elsewhere then I don’t see a reason to commit to one person unless that person blows my mind (pun admittedly intended) and has very high compatibility with me. As for the other person developing feelings: I’m always honest, so if she asks if I’m open for exclusivity I tell her that I don’t seek it in my life right now. If she wants to stick around, I let her.