Dating : “Stop withholding sex if you want a relationship” is not advice that’s geared towards helping you find a long term relationship.
This is often said by men who want sex easier and more frequently, regardless of whether they want to form a relationship with the woman or not.
An important thing to remember is that there are men who will have sex with women that they don’t have relationship interest in. Whether the man doesn’t find her attractive enough, interesting enough, not enough in common, lack of chemistry, not smart enough, etc. Whatever the reason may be, bottom line is there are guys who will have sex with women regardless of these things. Some will ignore a woman’s desire for a relationship and still take the sex if she gives it to them. And that’s why this advice is self serving. It gives a woman hope that if she provides sex, it’ll increase her chances for a relationship but it’s false hope if the man has already decided that he doesn’t see himself in a relationship with her.
Both women and men hold off certain things such as money and sex in order to make sure the person they’re dating is actually interested in them and not what they provide. And there’s nothing wrong with this. There’s nothing wrong with making sure you and the person you’re seeing are like minded and have the same goal and that you aren’t being used. I’m sure both the men and women reading this can recall a time when someone clearly wanted sex or money from them and stopped contact once they realized it wouldn’t work.
So, don’t let other people convince you to allow someone access to you earlier than you feel comfortable.